The Art of Happiness
by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, M.D.
My Rating: *** (3 out of 5 stars)
Why Did I Read?
I got this book at a book sale years ago. I was probably drawn to the title, and I was excited to learn about the wisdom that the Dalai Lama had to share. Like many other books, this one sat on my bookshelf for several years before I saw it there about a month ago and felt called to finally read it.
Nearly every time you see him, he’s laughing, or at least smiling. And he makes everyone else around him feel like smiling. He’s the Dalai Lama, the spiritual and temporal leader of Tibet, a Nobel Prize winner, and an increasingly popular speaker and statesman. What’s more, he’ll tell you that happiness is the purpose of life, and that “the very motion of our life is towards happiness.” How to get there has always been the question. He’s tried to answer it before, but he’s never had the help of a psychiatrist to get the message across in a context we can easily understand. Through conversations, stories, and meditations, the Dalai Lama shows us how to defeat day-to-day anxiety, insecurity, anger, and discouragement. Together with Dr. Cutler, he explores many facets of everyday life, including relationships, loss, and the pursuit of wealth, to illustrate how to ride through life’s obstacles on a deep and abiding source of inner peace.
What Did I Think/Recommendation
I was really hoping I would love this book and take away a lot from it. Unfortunately, it was not an easy read for me. It took me over a month to read this. Happiness is one of my favorite topics, but unfortunately this book did not hold my interest like I had hoped. Once I started reading, I was disappointed to find out that the Dalai Lama did not write the book. The book was written by Howard Cutler, M.D., a psychiatrist who interviewed him.
Although this book didn’t meet my high expectations of it, there are some things that I really enjoyed about it. I liked reading the direct quotes and the wisdom of the Dalai Lama, and this book has inspired me to read some of his books, including his autobiography, Freedom in Exile and The Good Heart: A Buddhist Perspective on the Teachings of Jesus.
I don’t think I would read The Art of Happiness again, but I would not discourage anyone from reading it. The Dalai Lama shares some great wisdom and advice, and there is a lot of information to take away from it.
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My Favorite Quotes
A few of my favorite quotes of the Dalai Lama from The Art of Happiness:
Definition of love (p.286) – “An utter, absolute, and unqualified wish for the happiness of another individual.”
“Motivation is so important…If you develop a pure and sincere motivation, if you are motivated by a wish to help on the basis of kindness, compassion, and respect, then you can carry on any kind of work, in any field, and function more effectively with less fear or worry, not being afraid of what others think or whether you ultimately will be successful in reaching your goal. Even if you fail to achieve your goal, you can feel good about having made the effort. But with a bad motivation, people can praise you or you can achieve goals, but you still will not be happy.” (p.272)
“I believe that each individual should embark upon a spiritual path that is best suited to his or her mental disposition, natural inclination, temperament, belief, family, and cultural background.” (p.294)
“The variety of people calls for a variety of religions. The purpose of religion is to benefit people, and I think that if we only had one religion, after a while it would cease to benefit many people…religions are meant to nourish the human spirit. And I think we can learn to celebrate that diversity in religions and develop a deep appreciation of the variety of religions…we must respect and appreciate the value of all the different major world religious traditions.”
“I think prayer is, for the most part, a simple daily reminder of your deeply held principles and convictions…Prayers are actually reminders. Reminders of how to speak to others, how to deal with other people, how to deal with problems in your daily life, things like that…my practice involves reminders — reviewing the importance of compassion, forgiveness, all these things.” – (P. 298)