Finding the Good in Goodbye

forgetting you never

My 5-year-old niece was laid to rest today.  After a 2-year battle with brain cancer, Mya’s suffering is finally over.  This blog is about gratitude and finding the good in every situation, so today I ponder “What good can possibly come out of the death of a 5-year-old?”  I do believe everything happens for a reason and always for the greatest good, but how do you find the good in the death of an innocent child?

Here are a few things I am grateful for:

  • Mya is no longer suffering, she is free from the limitations of her physical body, and I am comforted by my faith that she is at peace, resting blissfully in the arms of God.
  • I witnessed family members from all over the country coming together, feeling closer than ever before.  Family members overcame their differences and pulled together to show their support for Mya and her parents.
  • The outpouring of love and support from family, friends, and strangers all over the world.
  • I am grateful we had the opportunity to say goodbye.  Not everyone is so lucky.
  • I realized that the value of each life extends further than we could possibly imagine.
  • All of the wonderful memories and pictures we have of her will help to keep her spirit alive.  She will be forever in our hearts…never to be forgotten.
  • I have learned to accept that nothing belongs to us – even our own children.  They are a gift from God and can be taken away at any time.  So, hug them a little tighter, love them a little more, and be grateful for each day you have together.
  • I believe her spirit will live on and more good will come as those of us who knew her will not let her be forgotten.
  • Everyone around her witnessed the real meaning of love.
  • Mya reminded all of us of what REALLY matters in life.  Every day with our loved ones is a gift from God and should not be taken for granted.
  • Mya’s parents can finally stop worrying about what would be next regarding treatments, procedures, medications, experimental drugs, etc. and they can stop worrying when she will take her last breath.  It was a terrifying thought constantly hanging over their heads.
  • Everyone who knew her has grown in faith and love.

Of course right now, none of this “good” seems to justify the loss of a child, but she has fulfilled her purpose on this earth and I believe she has touched many more people and has done more “good” than we can possibly imagine.

So many times over these past 2 years, I asked God “Why?”  I was directed to John 9:3 which states “…this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his (her) life.”

The work of God is LOVE, and the amount of love generated by Mya is beyond comprehension. Mya’s story has touched people all over the world, and love has certainly been displayed in her life in so many ways. I believe she is now resting blissfully in the arms of God and someday we will be reunited with her. For me, that answer brings peace and comfort, but we all need to find our own answer that satisfies us.  I continually pray for Mya’s parents and her baby sister, that they may find their own answer that brings them peace and comfort as they learn to cope with their tremendous loss and discover their “new normal”.

Rest in peace, sweet angel…until we meet again!

enjoy little things in life

For more information about Mya’s story, please visit or her Facebook page Mya’s Fight for Life.


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